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Relationships: ideas and frameworks explained

A collection of ideas, frameworks and techniques related to Relationships, explained clearly so they are easy to understand and share.

Little openings: small moments that invite connection - sharing an umbrella, holding a door, carrying a suitcase, sneezing, borrowing eggs, directing someone lost, or picking up dropped papersLittle OpeningsAn illustration for Kahlil Gibran’s On Marriage from The Prophet: an oak and a cypress tree with two figures holding hands, grow not in each other’s shadow.Grow not in each other's shadowWhat is phubbing - snubbing someone or ignoring them for your phone - example: Someone sat in a cafe being phubbed by their friends on their phones while a parent and child walks by, gently heartbroken by being upstaged by a phonePhubbing: What It Means and Why It MattersWhat Clear is Kind means example with someone explaining clear is kind and not being clear along the wayClear is kindFact Tennis illustration: two individuals with tennis racquets knock unproductive, point-scoring arguments back and forth over a pile of laundry. Fact tennisExamples of the 4 horsemen of relationship apocalypse from John Gottman: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewallingThe 4 horsemen of relationship apocalypseWhat is the trust battery example explained with a manager considering 2 employees based on their past interactionsThe trust battery: A handy metaphor to think about trustWhat is Dunbar's number example explained: a person can't remember the name of the one person outside their circles of closer friends, super family, clan and tribe behind themDunbar’s number: 150The Kitchen Working Triangle illustration: a plan view of a kitchen is shown with the distances between commonly related appliances and storage highlighted. The kitchen working triangleEmotional hot potato cartoon: spreading a bad mood through a family to the dog who pees on the floorEmotional hot potatoVolunteer your own booking feeHow to load a dishwasher wellNever say “I told you so.”Ghost cooking illustration: the art of cooking leaving a sparkling, untouched kitchenGhost cookingAn office worker glumly thinks about their lack of window while a frustrated manager looks on which is transformed when the employee asks for a windowAsk for what you needDon’t fix the blame, fix the problemTopple-fit a sheetNon-stacking Tupperware should be destroyedSomeone gets a much better response by asking 'How was your day?' instead of 'Good day?'Prefer open-ended questionsClose your mouth while brushing to avoid mirror spotsAccept compliments sketchAccept complimentsFolding a fitted sheetDry your feet first

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